Life is actually a learning process... I guess everyone agrees with it... From the day we were born, we learn to sit, talk, walk, n etc... Some ppl thought they had learn enough when they get older, of course many knows that learning process wont stop...
In marriage life, much things need to learn also... We learn to live with each other, learn to tolerant, learn to take care each other, learn to love, learn to be patience, learn to forgive, learn to trust, learn to respect... But it seems like the one who actually really keen to learn was always the woman... I'm not sure it's my subjective point of view or it's actually quite true...
To prove my view not that subjective, here's the example... See, there's plenty of books on how to be a 'successful woman behind a successful man', books that teach women how to cope with family and husband n etc. But there are so little books that talk about marriage or family to MEN! Even there are a few, but men never look for that... Well, maybe some men dun like to read... But when men face prob in work, they will find solutions, maybe from colleagues or from internet... However, did you ever heard that your man online find solution for your relationship or marriage?? They will rather play online game, I bet...
In my marriage, my man wanted to learn many things... I see that as a good thing... but soon I find out that to manage the relationship is never the thing he wants to learn... He wont admit, or maybe he also dunno... As a wife, I really think I'm learning to be better... From doing housework to cooking dishes, it's all new to me and I'm keen to learn... See, cooking, women will buy cooking books to learn cook, but men will buy motor trader to see his dream car... I read a book said that to a man, relationship is like he bought a fridge home. After 'set up' the fridge then it can be use for years and years without having to worry about maintaining or cleaning it.
Many man will think that his VERY IMPORTANT role in the relationship is to provide financial support. Well, money is always important that cannot be denied. But is that the main stem of the relationship?? I'm not very sure, however, one thing I'm sure is without money the relationship most probably can still survive, without love the relationship will sure collapse.
Anyway, love is really powerful. I really dun wish to admit this, but I know this few years ago before I married him, that he got the key of my life. In others' view, I seems like always bully him and he seems all under my control. In fact, both of us know it's actually not. No matter how I mad of him, end up I will still forgive him for no reason (I really really dunno why). Haha, movie always showed that the wife kicks her husband out of the room. Well, I'm not sure how many women can actually sleep well after doing that... but for sure I'm not the one! I just kick him to another room with bed, not living room with sofa, but the whole night I was worrying whether there's blanket in the room... I felt miserable failure for cant being hard hearted!
Aih, I guess there's so much more for me to learn... but it's really sad when he said that I never respect his life... Well, I dunno what I did and deserved that... I know that respect each other is very important in relationship. But I never did that... so I'm kinda lost now... dunno what else I can do... I guess this is a part of the learning process... a part of life...
In marriage life, much things need to learn also... We learn to live with each other, learn to tolerant, learn to take care each other, learn to love, learn to be patience, learn to forgive, learn to trust, learn to respect... But it seems like the one who actually really keen to learn was always the woman... I'm not sure it's my subjective point of view or it's actually quite true...
To prove my view not that subjective, here's the example... See, there's plenty of books on how to be a 'successful woman behind a successful man', books that teach women how to cope with family and husband n etc. But there are so little books that talk about marriage or family to MEN! Even there are a few, but men never look for that... Well, maybe some men dun like to read... But when men face prob in work, they will find solutions, maybe from colleagues or from internet... However, did you ever heard that your man online find solution for your relationship or marriage?? They will rather play online game, I bet...
In my marriage, my man wanted to learn many things... I see that as a good thing... but soon I find out that to manage the relationship is never the thing he wants to learn... He wont admit, or maybe he also dunno... As a wife, I really think I'm learning to be better... From doing housework to cooking dishes, it's all new to me and I'm keen to learn... See, cooking, women will buy cooking books to learn cook, but men will buy motor trader to see his dream car... I read a book said that to a man, relationship is like he bought a fridge home. After 'set up' the fridge then it can be use for years and years without having to worry about maintaining or cleaning it.
Many man will think that his VERY IMPORTANT role in the relationship is to provide financial support. Well, money is always important that cannot be denied. But is that the main stem of the relationship?? I'm not very sure, however, one thing I'm sure is without money the relationship most probably can still survive, without love the relationship will sure collapse.
Anyway, love is really powerful. I really dun wish to admit this, but I know this few years ago before I married him, that he got the key of my life. In others' view, I seems like always bully him and he seems all under my control. In fact, both of us know it's actually not. No matter how I mad of him, end up I will still forgive him for no reason (I really really dunno why). Haha, movie always showed that the wife kicks her husband out of the room. Well, I'm not sure how many women can actually sleep well after doing that... but for sure I'm not the one! I just kick him to another room with bed, not living room with sofa, but the whole night I was worrying whether there's blanket in the room... I felt miserable failure for cant being hard hearted!
Aih, I guess there's so much more for me to learn... but it's really sad when he said that I never respect his life... Well, I dunno what I did and deserved that... I know that respect each other is very important in relationship. But I never did that... so I'm kinda lost now... dunno what else I can do... I guess this is a part of the learning process... a part of life...
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