Had been following a thread from forum discussing on whether to end up her marriage with her registered husband. There was quite some prompt feedback from the members. After reading those comments and stories, I had my own opinion too. But just dun wish to reply in the thread, so just share it over my blog.
The girl who started the topic had registered with her husband for 4 years but not staying together. But according to her, her husband did has affair with other girls before they got registered. And there is another girl who left comment that she is having the same prob. Then there are many members commented that men are all same. I'm really wonder if men are that bad, why we still married them? I dun understand why the 2 girls still registered to the men even they knew the man had affair with other girls, more than once. If you think that men will never change the attitude of having affair with other girls, that means you already accepted it, but why still complaining?
I think most of the women are thinking that marriage can change the men they want. Beware, I'm using the word, they want, not they love. I think if you love the man, you wouldn't want to change him. If you're trying to change him, it's just getting a man that you want, a perfect man that meet all your requirements. I agree with one of the member's comment on this. Never thought of changing anyone. You can only change yourself.
Here i quote one of the example given by the forum's member. When we want to plant a flower and want the flower to face a side. Some will try to tied the plant to a side and end up it will usually dead. But some will face the flower to the sun so that the flower will grow towards the sun. Same goes to your relationship. If you want your partner to change, and you tried to force him/her to what you want him/her to be, your relation will only getting worse. But if you show your love (like sun) and when your partner can feel your love, he/she will turn to what you want easily.
Just like what i had mentioned in my previous post about unconditional love, it's really important in a long last relationship and marriage.
The girl who started the topic had registered with her husband for 4 years but not staying together. But according to her, her husband did has affair with other girls before they got registered. And there is another girl who left comment that she is having the same prob. Then there are many members commented that men are all same. I'm really wonder if men are that bad, why we still married them? I dun understand why the 2 girls still registered to the men even they knew the man had affair with other girls, more than once. If you think that men will never change the attitude of having affair with other girls, that means you already accepted it, but why still complaining?
I think most of the women are thinking that marriage can change the men they want. Beware, I'm using the word, they want, not they love. I think if you love the man, you wouldn't want to change him. If you're trying to change him, it's just getting a man that you want, a perfect man that meet all your requirements. I agree with one of the member's comment on this. Never thought of changing anyone. You can only change yourself.
Here i quote one of the example given by the forum's member. When we want to plant a flower and want the flower to face a side. Some will try to tied the plant to a side and end up it will usually dead. But some will face the flower to the sun so that the flower will grow towards the sun. Same goes to your relationship. If you want your partner to change, and you tried to force him/her to what you want him/her to be, your relation will only getting worse. But if you show your love (like sun) and when your partner can feel your love, he/she will turn to what you want easily.
Just like what i had mentioned in my previous post about unconditional love, it's really important in a long last relationship and marriage.
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